Single Again? 3 Steps For Getting Back Out There
Have you been feeling overwhelmed and burned out from all the responsibilities and tasks you do day in and day out, so that you barely have any time or energy to put into taking care of YOURSELF or figuring out what it is YOU need in order to feel fulfilled and happy - whether in your relationship, your career, or just in LIFE?
It's very easy to let weeks, months and even YEARS go by while you're busy checking off your daily to-do lists and then wake up one day and ask yourself, "Who am I, what am I doing with my life?" and then on top of it realize, "What happened to my LOVE LIFE??"
I hear this from women ALL THE TIME - they get into a relationship, they focus so much on trying to make it "work" or being what they think the man wants them to be... Or they get so totally busy with life's little details, that when the relationship finally ends and they are forced to look at what they really want out of life, they realize they had LOST THEIR WAY.
They stopped being their authentic selves and suppressed their dreams because they had spent years ignoring what it is their soul was really yearning to be. So when the relationship they were in ends, they begin to feel as if they are "waking up" to who they really are and what they want for themselves.
Here's an important question. Does a relationship have to END in order for you to find yourself again? Isn't there a way to stay in touch with who you are and what you really want and need in life, while staying in a relationship and making that relationship WORK to bring out your authentic self?
The answer is YES, THERE IS. I'm going to show you how in this article. The question I want to ask you right now is, are you being as true to yourself right now as you can be?
Is your relationship with your man the most passionate, connected and HONEST that it can be? If you're not feeling as connected to your true and best self right now, I will give you some tips on how you can start on the RIGHT PATH to "getting your groove back" and becoming a happier, more fulfilled person, no matter what is happening in your life right now.
No matter if you're in a relationship that works, or you're single, or if you're having issues in your relationship that are standing in the way of your happiness...These tips will enable you to:
-- WAKE UP that youthful and playful woman you used to be. If you've "lost" your inner playfulness, you probably spend a lot of time feeling judgmental, pessimistic and tired and in your head.
-- Getting back in touch with that playful part of your soul will allow you to enjoy life no matter what it's throwing your way.
-- Get what you want out of your relationships - more honesty, more attention, more fun, more sharing.
-- Stop feeling ENVIOUS of other women who have better bodies, better boyfriends, better love lives, more money or less stress.
Are you ready to get back out there with 3 simple tips? Great, here we go.
Tip #1: STOP BEING SO SERIOUS. TRY SILLY
Do you ever feel worried that you're not being the perfect friend, partner, or mother? Does worrying about whether or not you're doing things the RIGHT way make you feel defensive and uptight about every little thing that doesn't go the way you think it should go?
These are symptoms of having lost your "inner child" and your ability to just LET GO and enjoy and accept yourself and your life for what it IS, not for what you think it "should" be. When you take a deep breath and do something SILLY and spontaneous for a change, it will open you up in ways you can't even imagine.
Kick off your shoes and go running through the grass. Dance with your child and spin them around until they're dizzy with laughter. Start a food fight in your kitchen with your boyfriend or husband.
These are all ways to let go of all the "should's" in your life and just live in the moment. Here's the problem with those "should's" by the way. They keep you from being true to who you really are, deep inside, because you're constantly worrying about what OTHER people think.
If you get stuck there too long, pretty soon you'll start to feel like you don't know who you are or what will make you happy. So do something silly and spontaneous and don't worry about how you'll look or what people will think. Just be your true self.
TIP #2: GIVE WHAT YOU'RE YEARNING FOR
Let's say you haven't gone out with your girlfriends in a long, long time. And you feel disconnected. Or maybe your man hasn't made any special date plans for what seems like weeks, and you're in a low-energy rut in your relationship.
Or you're single and feeling pretty lonely and down and wish you could find a decent man to share your time with. Instead of complaining to yourself about how your friends aren't calling you, or your man isn't being romantic or caring, or how hard it is to meet a man, make it a point to actually start GIVING the exact thing you want.
Call your friends and invite them to do something you enjoy doing together. Plan a weekend getaway with your man and surprise him with it. Smile and be engaging to everyone you encounter in your day - the grocery store clerk, your co-workers, your boss, your neighbors - and you'll be amazed at how much less isolated and lonely you'll feel.
And the best part about GIVING what you want for yourself is that you get so much MORE back in the long run. When you put yourself "in service" to others, by helping them, by really LISTENING instead of just talking, by offering your advice or talents to make their lives better and happier - you will begin to feel more fulfilled and valued - and happy - and you will begin to reap the rewards for all that positive energy immediately.
Tip # 3 TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE
When you take care of your own needs and your own future, you will feel less envious of the people around you who you think have it easier and better than you have.
Here's something I've noticed about others - even about myself sometimes - the things that you ENVY in others are the things you know you're neglecting in your OWN life.
Your envy is a sign that you are denying that aspect of yourself and that you need to pay more attention to it and fix it in yourself. For example, if you see the with self-righteousness and envy over every single well-dressed, sexy woman who walks by you and your man, it's probably likely that you aren't feeling so hot about yourself.
Maybe you know you haven't put as much effort into your appearance and well-being as you should, so instead of admitting that to yourself you feel a deep sense of negativity and envy for anyone you perceive as having it "more together" in that area.
The same can be said for things like wealth and success. If you envy someone's success, it's probably because you know you're not doing everything you can to create that personal success in your own life.
You know you're not doing everything you should to make yourself happy. It doesn't have to be about money. The key to feeling less envy and less negativity toward others is to BE HONEST about your shortcomings and then take responsibility for your own life to get things back on track.
So what do these 3 tips have in common? They are all about refocusing your attention and energy away from the destructive, negative feelings and thought patterns that make you feel inauthentic and down about your life, and turning things around so that you get back in touch with that deeper, WISER part of yourself so you can feel happier and less STAGNANT.
One of the BENEFITS of learning how to get back in touch with your authentic self and accessing that "inner child" - besides just feeling better about yourself -- is that it makes you more ATTRACTIVE and draws a man to you.
You see, when it comes to being the kind of woman that a man really wants, simply "being nice" and accommodating, or being predictable and doing and saying the same things the same way every day, will quickly put you in the "she's not the one" category in a man's mind.
Here's the scary part - once you fall into that category, you can get STUCK in there forever. You don't want a man to think that he can find someone else who will make him feel the passion and excitement that he used to feel - but isn't feeling anymore.
You want to be the kind of woman who INSPIRES a man's deepest and most powerful feelings of love and devotion. Simply through the things you do and say to keep him wondering and thinking about you. You want to be the kind of woman who sparks the kind of emotions in a man that he can't help but to worship and adore you, naturally and without a lot of effort.
No "fixing," no talking about the relationship, no convincing him that it should be working better than it is. It will just happen. Meanwhile, I hope that you start to use and apply those 3 Tips in your life. Starting today!
It's very easy to let weeks, months and even YEARS go by while you're busy checking off your daily to-do lists and then wake up one day and ask yourself, "Who am I, what am I doing with my life?" and then on top of it realize, "What happened to my LOVE LIFE??"
I hear this from women ALL THE TIME - they get into a relationship, they focus so much on trying to make it "work" or being what they think the man wants them to be... Or they get so totally busy with life's little details, that when the relationship finally ends and they are forced to look at what they really want out of life, they realize they had LOST THEIR WAY.
They stopped being their authentic selves and suppressed their dreams because they had spent years ignoring what it is their soul was really yearning to be. So when the relationship they were in ends, they begin to feel as if they are "waking up" to who they really are and what they want for themselves.
Here's an important question. Does a relationship have to END in order for you to find yourself again? Isn't there a way to stay in touch with who you are and what you really want and need in life, while staying in a relationship and making that relationship WORK to bring out your authentic self?
The answer is YES, THERE IS. I'm going to show you how in this article. The question I want to ask you right now is, are you being as true to yourself right now as you can be?
Is your relationship with your man the most passionate, connected and HONEST that it can be? If you're not feeling as connected to your true and best self right now, I will give you some tips on how you can start on the RIGHT PATH to "getting your groove back" and becoming a happier, more fulfilled person, no matter what is happening in your life right now.
No matter if you're in a relationship that works, or you're single, or if you're having issues in your relationship that are standing in the way of your happiness...These tips will enable you to:
-- WAKE UP that youthful and playful woman you used to be. If you've "lost" your inner playfulness, you probably spend a lot of time feeling judgmental, pessimistic and tired and in your head.
-- Getting back in touch with that playful part of your soul will allow you to enjoy life no matter what it's throwing your way.
-- Get what you want out of your relationships - more honesty, more attention, more fun, more sharing.
-- Stop feeling ENVIOUS of other women who have better bodies, better boyfriends, better love lives, more money or less stress.
Are you ready to get back out there with 3 simple tips? Great, here we go.
Tip #1: STOP BEING SO SERIOUS. TRY SILLY
Do you ever feel worried that you're not being the perfect friend, partner, or mother? Does worrying about whether or not you're doing things the RIGHT way make you feel defensive and uptight about every little thing that doesn't go the way you think it should go?
These are symptoms of having lost your "inner child" and your ability to just LET GO and enjoy and accept yourself and your life for what it IS, not for what you think it "should" be. When you take a deep breath and do something SILLY and spontaneous for a change, it will open you up in ways you can't even imagine.
Kick off your shoes and go running through the grass. Dance with your child and spin them around until they're dizzy with laughter. Start a food fight in your kitchen with your boyfriend or husband.
These are all ways to let go of all the "should's" in your life and just live in the moment. Here's the problem with those "should's" by the way. They keep you from being true to who you really are, deep inside, because you're constantly worrying about what OTHER people think.
If you get stuck there too long, pretty soon you'll start to feel like you don't know who you are or what will make you happy. So do something silly and spontaneous and don't worry about how you'll look or what people will think. Just be your true self.
TIP #2: GIVE WHAT YOU'RE YEARNING FOR
Let's say you haven't gone out with your girlfriends in a long, long time. And you feel disconnected. Or maybe your man hasn't made any special date plans for what seems like weeks, and you're in a low-energy rut in your relationship.
Or you're single and feeling pretty lonely and down and wish you could find a decent man to share your time with. Instead of complaining to yourself about how your friends aren't calling you, or your man isn't being romantic or caring, or how hard it is to meet a man, make it a point to actually start GIVING the exact thing you want.
Call your friends and invite them to do something you enjoy doing together. Plan a weekend getaway with your man and surprise him with it. Smile and be engaging to everyone you encounter in your day - the grocery store clerk, your co-workers, your boss, your neighbors - and you'll be amazed at how much less isolated and lonely you'll feel.
And the best part about GIVING what you want for yourself is that you get so much MORE back in the long run. When you put yourself "in service" to others, by helping them, by really LISTENING instead of just talking, by offering your advice or talents to make their lives better and happier - you will begin to feel more fulfilled and valued - and happy - and you will begin to reap the rewards for all that positive energy immediately.
Tip # 3 TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR LIFE
When you take care of your own needs and your own future, you will feel less envious of the people around you who you think have it easier and better than you have.
Here's something I've noticed about others - even about myself sometimes - the things that you ENVY in others are the things you know you're neglecting in your OWN life.
Your envy is a sign that you are denying that aspect of yourself and that you need to pay more attention to it and fix it in yourself. For example, if you see the with self-righteousness and envy over every single well-dressed, sexy woman who walks by you and your man, it's probably likely that you aren't feeling so hot about yourself.
Maybe you know you haven't put as much effort into your appearance and well-being as you should, so instead of admitting that to yourself you feel a deep sense of negativity and envy for anyone you perceive as having it "more together" in that area.
The same can be said for things like wealth and success. If you envy someone's success, it's probably because you know you're not doing everything you can to create that personal success in your own life.
You know you're not doing everything you should to make yourself happy. It doesn't have to be about money. The key to feeling less envy and less negativity toward others is to BE HONEST about your shortcomings and then take responsibility for your own life to get things back on track.
So what do these 3 tips have in common? They are all about refocusing your attention and energy away from the destructive, negative feelings and thought patterns that make you feel inauthentic and down about your life, and turning things around so that you get back in touch with that deeper, WISER part of yourself so you can feel happier and less STAGNANT.
One of the BENEFITS of learning how to get back in touch with your authentic self and accessing that "inner child" - besides just feeling better about yourself -- is that it makes you more ATTRACTIVE and draws a man to you.
You see, when it comes to being the kind of woman that a man really wants, simply "being nice" and accommodating, or being predictable and doing and saying the same things the same way every day, will quickly put you in the "she's not the one" category in a man's mind.
Here's the scary part - once you fall into that category, you can get STUCK in there forever. You don't want a man to think that he can find someone else who will make him feel the passion and excitement that he used to feel - but isn't feeling anymore.
You want to be the kind of woman who INSPIRES a man's deepest and most powerful feelings of love and devotion. Simply through the things you do and say to keep him wondering and thinking about you. You want to be the kind of woman who sparks the kind of emotions in a man that he can't help but to worship and adore you, naturally and without a lot of effort.
No "fixing," no talking about the relationship, no convincing him that it should be working better than it is. It will just happen. Meanwhile, I hope that you start to use and apply those 3 Tips in your life. Starting today!
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